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Old 12-13-2014, 07:26 PM   #1 (permalink)
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To anyone on this site who is over 30 years old, What advice would you give to someone who is in their early 20s?

It seems like there are two popular narratives when it comes to your 20s. Either your 20s are all about learning and trying new things

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Your 20s are the critical years of your life that you must manage correctly because they will shape who you are for the rest of your life
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Old 12-13-2014, 07:40 PM   #2 (permalink)
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To anyone on this site who is over 30 years old, What advice would you give to someone who is in their early 20s?

It seems like there are two popular narratives when it comes to your 20s. Either your 20s are all about learning and trying new things

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Your 20s are the critical years of your life that you must manage correctly because they will shape who you are for the rest of your life
The first option for your early 20's, the second option for your mid to late twenties. Essentially, both should apply either together or in different stages.
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Old 12-13-2014, 08:15 PM   #4 (permalink)
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The first option for your early 20's, the second option for your mid to late twenties. Essentially, both should apply either together or in different stages.
Thread.

Well, not really, we could talk about details. But that's the broad strokes.

I mean, it really depends if you're somebody who knows what you want to do at an early stage. Like Pzabby always talking about law school. But even then, you can run into problems, because you could wake up at, say 28, and be like "shit, I did everything for the WRONG reasons, and this is not what I actually wanted out of life, but rather what I thought would make me look good in the eyes of friends, family, society".
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Also, some people are just victims of the economy. I spent years in school working towards a specific career....and BOOM, economy goes to shit and it starts becoming more obvious (as people are more willing to write about it) that a particular business model for certain professions just doesn't work. The "plan' goes to shit, and you're forced to start over.

So, yeah, you gotta balance FUN and cool learning experiences with working towards a goal.

I didn't do nearly as much travelling as should have done in my 20s, simply beacuse I thought it would "delay my plan", and my plan just ended up fucked anyway!

"I should have went YOLO! more often"
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Old 12-13-2014, 08:55 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I don't really think you can manage life. You can try, but i never saw the point, but then i had a fair bit of security to fall back on. From both myself and what i've seen from others, staying open to possibilities is important, plan or no plan.

Don't worry about the rest of your life so much. I was guilty of that even with my laid back approach. It's kinda unavoidable i suppose. It just weighs on you. It seems like this big thing in front of you. But it just isn't. I'm 50 and it went by in a flash. The past now seems quite small, but i'm thankful for all the crazy experiences i loaded up on. It was like being lost in a big city for me in my 20’s. Intimidating, but so much was learned around every turn that would have been missed had i found point B straight from point A.
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Old 12-13-2014, 09:10 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Always be learning. Travel as much as you can. Build your base skills in things you like and be flexible about how you use them. Work will come. Don't do things you hate, and don't rush though it. Find things that you love and invest time, energy and mind in them. You won't regret time spent having fun but you will eventually regret time that you wasted. It doesn't come back. Savour whatever you do.
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Old 12-13-2014, 10:06 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I would say the first 'narrative' applies to your whole life. You're always learning and it's always good to try new things.

Your second 'narrative' is a bit exaggerated. Who you are in your 20s doesn't mean that's who you'll be in your 30s. People transform their lives after their 20s.

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Old 12-13-2014, 11:05 PM   #10 (permalink)
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“The Road goes ever on and on
Down from the door where it began.
Now far ahead the Road has gone,
And I must follow, if I can,
Pursuing it with eager feet,
Until it joins some larger way
Where many paths and errands meet.
And whither then? I cannot say"
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Old 12-14-2014, 12:54 AM   #11 (permalink)
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I don't really think you can manage life. You can try, but i never saw the point, but then i had a fair bit of security to fall back on. From both myself and what i've seen from others, staying open to possibilities is important, plan or no plan.

Don't worry about the rest of your life so much. I was guilty of that even with my laid back approach. It's kinda unavoidable i suppose. It just weighs on you. It seems like this big thing in front of you. But it just isn't. I'm 50 and it went by in a flash. The past now seems quite small, but i'm thankful for all the crazy experiences i loaded up on. It was like being lost in a big city for me in my 20’s. Intimidating, but so much was learned around every turn that would have been missed had i found point B straight from point A.
Well put.
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These replies are great. Good idea on the thread! Thanks guys, always great to hear advice.
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Old 12-14-2014, 03:39 AM   #14 (permalink)
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I'm just over 30 so ... and living half-way across the world so this might not mean much but...

Whatever you do, don't do too much of it. I worked too hard for too long since 22 that I burned out at 29 to the point I became so indifferent to everything and it would have felt disgusting if I wasn't indifferent to my indifference. Over a year later, I'm still fighting it, there are good and bad days, but at least I feel something now. And yea, I was one of those guys that thought "such a thing can never happen to me, i love my job etc...etc..". Well, after enough defeats, lies, deceptions and time. It happens. So, careful.

Everything in moderation.

And, I don't think 20s will define your life. You'll learn some tough lessons that can't be learned but through experience. I guess you're free to re-define it as you see fit at any point.

Anyways, best of luck!
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I'm not over 30 but I wouldn't know anyways, still trying to figure what the hell is going on and what to do with myself. Doing things that I should have done 5 years ago, but at the time I was too stupid or too afraid to face the world. I partied way too much and did not do much about the future. I guess better later than never..

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For me the best years of my life so far were my 30's. So much more sure of things and comfortable with life and my choices. I would say that generally your best years in life are 30 to 50. That twenty year span when you're still pretty young but have less self doubt and hopefully more security to do things you really want to do.
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To anyone on this site who is over 30 years old, What advice would you give to someone who is in their early 20s?
i'm 55 and the best advice i can give you is to take care of your health/body...and that means starting today...not "tomorrow"
i can honestly say that i am in very good shape for my age...but there are MANY people around me who have not looked after themselves and they are extremely limited as to what they can do in their later years because of it

trust me...if you don't have your health in your twilight years, you have nothing
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Old 01-02-2015, 01:10 AM   #18 (permalink)
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Everyone is different there is no clear cut answer I or anyone could give you on how to live your life. All I know is for me it's not about money and how much you can make because in the end who cares. No one is going to remember you for how much money you make but they will measure you on the quality of your character and the man you become. My family is how I measure that yard stick, Of all the things I've done and seen the only thing that truly matters to me is my family, my kids are what keep me going and make me strive to become a better person. Good luck my friend!
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I'm 10 years away from being 10 years away from 30.

My daughters are 1.5 and 3. Stay away from them too.
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