Kris

Define protection.

Compassion and "to be heard" (which I am assuming means respect) - I think everyone in a relationship, be they male or female, wants those two things. It would be a pretty shitty relationship if one member did not respect the other one.

TORaptor4Ever

Both I guess. I've never been a huge advocate of the "Hey, I've only known you for 4 months but let's get hitched!!" sort of deal... and I would LOVE to have a few years with my wife before having kids... but that seems to be getting less and less likely with each passing year... who wants to START having kids when they're 40?

Beyond that though, I think that you just start to get to the point where you begin to crave companionship over a string of meaningless lays with strangers. It's nice when you can find someone that you can be "at ease" with and just share life's many experinces with.

God I sound old... Who says that guys have no "clock"? lol....

Dr. J. Naismith

Blind date ... a female friend of mine hooked us up. Truth be told when I first met her I absolutely hated her. I thought she was full of it because I was under the impression she thought of herself as god's gift to men. Horrible time overall and we basically didn't say much to one another all night.

Dropped her off that night and spoke to one of my buddies and I told him "that one isn't going anywhere". A week later she email's me telling me she had a blast and we had to go out again. At point I was a little freaked out because I initially thought she was bipolar because I had a horrible time and didn't get a vibe from her at all that night and she apparently had the time of her life.

Anyhow, we set up another date a week or so later and went to see Matt Good here in Ottawa. Both of us actually drank that night which in turn loosened us both up we did it Leon Phelps style "in da butt". Actually no, I just threw that in to be funny. We actually had a blast and the rest is history now.

Barracuda

Ah, the story of 'Cuda and SJ.... heh.

I was with a guy for over three years. We had plans for a future wedding, we were that gross couple that everyone wanted to be... behind closed doors, there was bad stuff happening. So, we broke up.

Three days later, I'm at Grape & Wine Festival in Niagara. My twin friends had family there. One of their distant cousins was this older dude who was kinda cute.

He started messaging me after we met.

I tried to run away; I wasn't ready.

He was a persistent little fucker.

We went out.

It just worked, for all the issues and problems.

Now we live together and bother all of you daily on this lovely msg board.

Proof positive that you can find someone, even when you SPECIFICALLY don't want to

Aar_Canada

I know what women want and it's right inside my pants

TORaptor4Ever

GREAT to hear dude!

That's awesome. You definitely sound like you figured some things out there and are a wiser man (with a great lady too!) for it. Congrats!

Barracuda

Yes.

We all want men's underwear.

Acie

When I met my wife I thought she was the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen in my entire life. It didn't hurt she was extremely kind and very down to earth.

The only problem she was married and I was completely respectful of that.

Anyway over time we became good friends and we both realised we were meant for each other, her marriage which on the outside appeared happy was actually crumbling from within, she left him and the rest is history.

Barracuda

Wow!

That's quite a story

And the first sentence is enough to make any woman swoon, even just a bit...

TORaptor4Ever

Hmmm.... yes, I guess that I would have to concede that point.... as sad as it is. I don't think that it's EVER been an issue among me & my guy friends though when we get together and talk so perhaps I'm just being a bit naive. I honestly think that it's laughable that a women is paid less than a man is for doing the same job. Esp. in this day and age. But then again racism is still out there too so I guess that I shouldn't be TOO surprised. There are always going to be ignorant people I suppose...

For me, I read "The Game" like I'd read any good fiction novel (even though it's based on reailty). I got some laughs out of it and laerned some good lessons. There's no way that I would EVER take what's written in it seriously (even if some of it DOES work)... because in the end (as the author eventually found out) you just de-humanize people and human interaction to the point that there's no joy in life anymore. You may be able to do steps A, B and C to land that Playboy bunny but how do you respect someone who you've "conned"? If anything I think that it serves to open men's eyes and let them know that sleeping with a different woman each and every night is NOT going to make you happy.. at least not in the long run lol.

Acie

Yeah, I'm a huge cornball.

Did I mention the deal was sealed when I found out she loved to eat the cheese off of the inside of the Wendy's wrapper too? hehe

XiaominWu

I find it so strange that there wasn't even a mention of falling in love through that whole article. Like it's a myth or something.

Barracuda

Agreed.

And that makes me sad.

XiaominWu

My wife was dating a friend of a friend when we were at UofT together...... We were friends for about a year, and she moved on to be dating this other guy who was a total loser. When she realized that he wasn't good for her and felt that she needed a distraction, I said, "Let me be your distraction"...... that was 16 years ago.

INSIDER

because theres no such thing.
its just a word.
seriously.

love = comfort or lust

Snooch

I mean it like this, protection, not in the way that someone bumps into you in a bar you kick there ass, but in the way that if you are sick or scared or whatever you take them in your arms and just hold them there. Goes hand in hand with being a strong man-again not literally in the Insider at the gym with crocs kind of way, but hold your values strong-stand your ground and dont be pushed around.

Respect is obviously a giving and I never even mentioned that, but by "to be heard" I actually meant it literally. Actively listen and respond and show genuine interest in them.

XiaominWu

Don't be such a cynic. Whatever the emotional formula is, Love exists.

I dare you to hold your child for the first time and tell me that it doesn't.

TORaptor4Ever

A 16-yr "distraction"??.... I knew you were witty but DAMN!

INSIDER

love for a child, yes - that exists.... more of a protection - i'd die for my child type of love.

love for a partner - nope... i dont believe in it.

theres so many scenerios.
its impossible.

people just throw around that word, its lost all meaning.

Barracuda

"It's just a word" could be said about anything.

Love is actually a chemical addiction between people.

It exists.

And there's different types. Do you love your family? Pets? Have you never been IN love before?

Even if it can be a shitty and hard thing, love does exist.