Originally Posted by Christopha
That is what I was going for when I started the thread. The key to happiness being permanent, a fulfillment, rather than day-to-day pleasures that elevate your temporary mood.
My longterm goals which I hope will equal fulfillment when I am older include; being married, having a kid, having lifelong friends, travelling as much as possible, not being obsessed with work, living somewhere that I have access to outdoor activities.
those are all day to day pleasures.
I disagree with Lig in one point.
happiness i believe is a result of a combination of pleasures, but not goals. If one were to search throughout their lives for happiness, aim to reach a goal, etc, you would never reach it. Imo goals can never be reached, because goals are never set in stone or permanent. What makes an individual happy varies from year to year, month to month, day to day, second to second.
fulfillment can never be reached in one's life simply because humans as a species always feel as if nothing is ever enough. All people, at death, regret their lives, in one way or another, but ultimately because they believe they could have done so much more, which in some cases is true, and in others untrue.
to make one truly happy is to fulfill momentary pleasures, and have a lack of goal, looking forward, because looking forward will always allow us to skip by the present, as does looking in the past.
Ceaser Milan, a dog "expert" (however much a person can be) once said that the difference between dogs and humans is that at death no dog is ever sad. They accept death with ease, because throughout their life they have lived in the present, and made the most out of every possible situation. I don't generally agree with Ceaser and his tactics (i've had a dog, and trained him well, and that's not easy to do with a jack russel) but this saying is incredibly true.