Originally Posted by bjjs
That sounds like a suggestion by somebody who is still looking for their "one true love".
Not a realistic view imo.
First, you have to give people the benefit of the doubt imo, if they're getting married, they must THINK that person is the right person for them.
Maybe it's for the wrong reasons, but why else would they be doing it unless they thought it was the right choice. People don't intentionally make poor decisions. The fact of the matter is everybody changes. What was the right choice or felt like the right choice at one time doesn't always turn out to be a good relationship.
Their is no SURE thing. Their aren't soulmates out there, crafted perfectly for each and everyone of us to seek out and marry.
Nah, he didn't say looking for "The One". He said people should make sure they find "someone who is right for them." Those are different things.
And you're right, people do change. Not much you can do about that... But it's still about finding a good match and being happy. Working on a good relationship because you really love someone. That's all